A writer is only half responsible for what he writes. I speak from experience. Once I have given my characters their names, they begin to take over. Their personalities emerge so that when I find them kissing or moving on to more serious acts, there is little I can do without stepping away, without taking my fingers off the keyboard.
If I do that, the story becomes stilted.
So, in an effort to placate my people and at the same time my readers, I now put an asterisk before stories that become ‘hot’.
Perhaps, it they knew we were reading about them, they might be a little more discreet but I somehow doubt that, in a moment of passion, they would give a damn!